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A soon-to-be mother, only a week away from her due date, sought help online after her affluent sister hosted a house party that resulted in chaos throughout her home.
The sister outright declined to cover the cost of hiring a cleaner to sort out the chaos, igniting a full-blown conflict among family members.
An event that took an unexpected turn
Taking to the infamous 'Am I The A**hole (AITA)' forum on Reddit, the original poster (OP) titled her now-viral post, "AITA for asking my sister to pay for a cleaner after trashing my home?"
She started by saying, "First of all, my sister is quite affluent, earning £100K ($122K) annually, while her husband makes £70K ($85K). She received an inheritance and her total net worth from properties, which were passed down from our parents, is around £2 million ($2.4 million)."
In contrast, OP's situation is quite different: she is a stay-at-home mom, while her partner brings in £49K ($60K) each year. "My inheritance is significantly smaller than my sister's, but I don't mind because I'm grateful we have a place to call home," she shared.
They received their home as an inheritance, which OP characterized as spacious, prompting her sister to ask to host the party there. The terms were straightforward. "The stipulation was that she would handle the cleanup afterward, and her husband wouldn't be responsible for cooking—they would just order in," OP noted.
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However, the consequences of the incident turned out to be a complete disaster.
“They have utterly wrecked our home, cooked meals, and just abandoned everything. They used my pricey dishes and cast iron cookware and left them dirty. They also consumed around £50 ($60) worth of alcohol,” OP explained.
"I'm expecting a baby and I'm actually due in just a week, but my house is a complete mess," she shared.
When she requested her sister to cover the cost of a cleaner, it sparked a whirlwind of chaos.
The OP felt that her family was leaning towards her sister rather than offering her any support. "My family thinks I'm the villain here, can you believe it? My mom insists that I should have made it clear that they shouldn't touch our alcohol! I'm honestly taken aback. They believe that since I inherited the house, I should just accept this situation," she expressed.
The original poster finally turned to Reddit and expressed, "I'm really confused and feeling like I'm the villain here for wanting to ask for my money back for the alcohol. What are your thoughts on this?"
The online community reacts as a user requests their sister to cover the cost of a cleaning service.
The AITA community quickly reached a consensus, declaring that OP was NTA (not the a**hole) and that her sister's behavior was completely out of line.
"Not the a**hole. You kindly permitted them to use your home with the understanding that they would tidy up afterward. That was a reasonable request. Instead, they left your place in chaos and expected you to handle their cleanup, yet you're being portrayed as the villain?" someone questioned.
"NTA. Have they even looked at it? I can understand your family's perspective, and while getting upset over 50 bucks worth of alcohol seems trivial, that's not really what this is about, is it?" another person chimed in.
"You're not the a**hole here; you clearly communicated that you wanted them to clean and not cook, and they disregarded your instructions. I suggest you refrain from doing anything for them in the future. Avoid even asking for their help with the baby, and if they inquire about it, you can say, 'Considering how you left my place last time, I think you might end up creating more work for me, haha,'" another person suggested.
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A user commented, "I believe your mom needs to keep quiet, and it's reasonable for you to ask your sister to both clean up and contribute to the cost of the alcohol, as those were part of the deal in some ways. Plus, they should really stop being envious of you for inheriting the big house. You're not the bad guy here."
"You're not the asshole. It's frustrating when parents or family are biased and disregard the feelings of others. Take the necessary steps; your sister is an adult and must learn to be accountable. Don't allow her to host any more house parties at your place," another person argued.
The original poster later came back with a rather surprising update.
"To my surprise, my mum is now on my side and has taken it upon herself to tidy up all the chaos," she revealed. She also mentioned that her mother is "frustrated with them for asking her to cover £40 ($49) for decorations, only for them to back out of paying."
The OP's father, on the other hand, was firmly opposed to her stance, thinking that her request for reimbursement was an “overreaction.”
The icing on the cake? “My sister has cut me off after I requested some cash for drinks 😬 She said it was ‘not nice,’” she shared.
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